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- Strip Nerf-gun dart game: Knock off cups, push cups across a string strung across the room, hang cups on a string from the ceiling, ping pong balls placed around room, etc. Every time one of you hits the target, the other partner has to remove one more piece of clothing…
- Play a card game of GO FISH, but rather than the standard kid version, assign a sensual act to each card’s face value. HEARTS are kisses, SPADES are foot massages, DIAMONDS are neck/shoulder/temple massages, and ACES are _____________ (Oral stimulation on a predefined body part, finger stimulation of genitals, whatever you want them to be.) The number designation of the card dictates how long the sensual act should last. (You decide what the Jack, Queen, King, Ace, and Joker should be length-wise ahead of time.) If you get the pair you ask for, you are the recipient. Whatever the face value is of the card handed over that completes the pair determines the sensual act.
- Play HOT & COLD with your partner using an X-marks-the-spot grand prize. Take turns placing a small X somewhere on your body, then let your partner place their hands on you— or if you prefer, just use words to name the body parts off—and you tell them whether they’re getting "hotter" (closer to) or "colder" (farther from) the X. Once it's found, they get to kiss you there. Being dressed or being covered by a sheet, etc., is a key factor in this game so as to hide X's location. Or, you can write the body part name on a piece of paper and play the game in the buff. Either way, it’s fun.
- Head to bed with a pair of dice and a blank sheet of paper. List the numbers one through twelve on the paper, then between the two of you, make up a list of foreplay touches that you enjoy (This can be something traditionally seen as sensual, such as fingering, necking, oral sex, etc. OR it can be as simple as agreeing to five minutes of cuddling. Alternate taking turns rolling the dice. You can stop whenever you choose or play until every idea has been used. If energy is an issue for either partner, limit the game to two different agreed-on sensual acts, and just play odd and even with whatever number gets rolled.
- Let your partner shave your more intimate places. Take a hot bath or shower first to soften the skin and hair, but when doable, this is a nice intimate activity that allows for some great touching. It’s okay to feel a little nervous, but a gentle, slow touch, whether you’re being totally shaved or just tidied up is still a great use of bedroom time (feel free to trim first if it makes you more comfortable).
- Play close your eyes and open your mouth… One partner lies back and has to keep their eyes shut, while the other partner places some part of their body up to that other partner’s mouth. The partner with their eyes shut uses their mouth to stimulate that body part. Agree beforehand if the genitals are, or aren’t, allowed in this game, and whether biting will or won’t be welcome. Your partner's comfort zones matter as you play.
- One game that works no matter what body parts are able to be stimulated or not is an easygoing game of “Name that Stimulator.” Arrive at the bed with a small box of hidden treasures. Have a feather, a flower, a large marshmallow, a chocolate bar, some small fluffy stuffed-animal, an ice cube or similar frozen item), warm washrag (heat it up prior in a microwave and place it in TWO small zippable baggies to help retain the warmth). Bring your imagination to this game and let it wander… Use each item slowly and intentionally to stimulate whatever body part you plan to arouse. Feel free to verbally talk about atypical body parts in their minds if those parts are no longer physically able to be stimulated, but whose mental pictures are worth tapping into in order to heighten the game.
- Each of you privately create a list of the five top places you prefer to be touched in regards to foreplay, and place them in order of where you like to be touched first. Your partner has to guess which ones are on the list and in what order. Each one takes turns expressing their guess, one body part at a time. If they’re right, they’ve guessed the body part AND put it in the correct order, the table turns and you have to guess from their list. If they’re wrong, they have to spend 60 seconds kissing or somehow stimulating the part they named. Obviously, if you have more time, you can create a longer list here. Great way to get to know your partner better. And never be shy about showing your partner the best way to touch those parts of yourself. It will increase your pleasure and boost their self-confidence when they’re able to arouse you more successfully during your times together.
- Come to bed with the thought of, This is the very last time I’ll be able to touch you for a year. Then, just touch.
- Play the 5-Minute couples game. Crawl into bed and one at a time, knock off these bonding exercises: Minute #1: Just look into one another’s eyes. No talking. Period. Minute #2: Pull the covers up over your head and whisper compliments to one another there in the dark. Use this time to maybe honor something your partner might have a hard time truly accepting or maybe you’re shy about sharing. The dark makes it feel safer, as no one is having to make eye contact. Minute #3: This is intimate face time. Go back to total silence during this minute again. Nibble your lover’s ears. Gently. Caress them tenderly. Use your nose to nuzzle them. If there are reasons to avoid facial touching, substitute placing their finger in your mouth and lightly sucking on it… Minute #4: Remember how to give a hickie? Each of you leave one somewhere on your lover where they’re comfortable receiving one. If there’s medical or other reservations where this is not the best plan, use a felt pen to write HICKIED as if it were a tattoo on them instead. Minute 5: Place your hands, or lips, or whatever body part you most prefer on your partner’s genitals or buttocks and simply hold them in place using however much pressure you both view as comfortable.
- One of you gets to take a cool shower, while the other one has a couple large towels warming in the dryer. When the person is done showering, the second partner also strips down, and using the warmth from their body and the warm towels, both head to bed to now mutually dry off and cuddle until everyone is toasty, snuggly, and ready to just rest against one another. Falling asleep like this is pretty darn fulfilling emotionally.
